How to Manage a Suicide Pact

Recently at a Montreal high school, 62 high school students made a suicide pact. As the story broke last week, the Montreal Gazette revealed that school officials had determined the three people who started the pact, who claimed that it was a prank. The article also quoted a school official as saying that “some of the students did not know what they were signing because only the first sheet indicated that it was a suicide pact”. No doubt school personnel were trying to allay the fears of the public, and more importantly, parents of students at College d’Anjou, a private high school in Montreal’s east end.

I learned about this situation when I was asked to comment and provide advice for Global News. I found the tone of school officials, as characterized by the Montreal Gazette, to be troubling. We know too much in 2017 not to be concerned whenever news of a suicide pact emerges, especially among youth between 15 and 24 years old. During these years, suicide is the second most common cause of death.

Some of the other facts that ought to have engendered more concern are the actual statistics about suicide and suicide attempts in Canada. The Canadian Mental Health Association has found that 34% of youth between the ages of 15 and 24 have contemplated suicide – one third. Also, the actual number of suicide attempts in this population in Canada is 8%. Both the rate of contemplation and the rate of attempts increases when there is a suicide pact. The acceptance implied in a suicide pact reduces a young person’s emotional barriers to suicide and so the risk increases.

What should happen when a school learns of a suicide pact? There are 3 direct steps that might help. The first step consists of education through assemblies. Bring all concerned together, in this case the entire student body along with their parents and other interested family members, e.g. siblings. Have an experienced resource person speak to this group about what to do to reassure themselves that their family member will be okay. This person can direct the assembly to resources for Mental Health First Aid as well as to local crisis and emergency services. There will be lots of questions about both the general subject of suicide and suicide pacts and about the specific situation. The resource person and school personnel should be prepared to address these. The school personnel must be prepared to address concerns openly, without judgment, and compassionately. This is not a time to be defensive. It is a time to make sure you have support moving forward should there be a need for further mental health assistance.

The second step must involve meetings with mental health professionals for each person involved in the pact. The best scenario is that one third of these youth were contemplating suicide and it is important to reach out and find help for these young people.

Finally, it is an important time to remind everyone of these three circumstances that indicate an increased risk of suicide in a young person:
1. Increased use of alcohol and drugs.
2. Giving away one’s belongings.
3. Signs and symptoms of depression or a history of depression.

Doing all of this is a good start to preventing suicide, but suicide and suicide attempts are symptoms of a serious medical illness. People die of serious illnesses. In some cases, such as this, these deaths can be prevented.

If anyone reading this has questions, please ask. The best way to prevent suicide is to talk about it openly and without judgment.

Just Ask

I consider myself to be a very fortunate doctor because I do not often have to deal with the death of my patients. My patients usually recover from their illnesses and, because they are young, I am often able to see them live out the promise of their lives.
The deaths in my practice, however, always continue to haunt me because they are deaths by suicide and suicide is such an insidious outcome that even those of us who see it most often can forget that suicidal ideation and attempts are serious symptoms of a severe illness. We should know better, but we still forget that this severe illness is very difficult to recognize.

Severe illnesses in youth are so difficult for all of us to comprehend. Depression and suicide are even more difficult because they are symptoms that often occur in young people who can present a cheerful countenance to the world – who have a gift of helping others to feel happy. Have you not heard this? Do you not know of a situation in which this was exactly the case?

On the weekend, I read J. Kelly Nestruck’s article in the Globe and Mail about Jonah McIntosh, a young actor at the Shaw Festival who died by suicide in July. He recorded how the Artistic Director at the Shaw Festival saw Mr. McIntosh: “always smiling and making everyone around him smile”. Mr. Nestruk also documented that a death such as the young actor’s suicide was not one the theatre company had experienced, which seemed surprising to me. There is a suicide every forty seconds in the world and artists and actors have a suicide rate of 24 per 100,000, higher than physicians or teachers or nurses.

The article underlined for me once again that those of us who work in mental health fail to educate the public about how difficult it is to predict the course of depression – we have not communicated how a smiling face cannot be assumed to be an accurate reflection of mood. Many people with depression leave their friends and family, leave their doctors’ offices, with a smiling face even when they are plagued by persistent suicidal thoughts, with plans to act on their troubling symptoms. Most of these people have brought joy to their families and friends, but have never found it for themselves.
At this stage in my career, I no longer think about whether I am asking the question sensitively. I just ask, “Are you thinking of suicide?” “Do you have a plan to kill yourself?” People ask all the time if these questions could cause a person to think of suicide but this is not the case.

Just ask, I tell people. If the person you ask seems shocked, or makes some protest, just say,”I am so worried about you and I do not want to make the mistake of not asking about suicide.” We would not hesitate to ask about the serious symptoms of heart disease. We must begin to do the same for depression and suicide. We can save these wonderful lives if we ask. We can prevent suicide.

(On September 10 at 8 pm I put a candle in my window to show my support for suicide prevention and for those who die by suicide and for those who survive.)